Too Good to Be True? January 11, 2008
Posted by selfworks in Uncategorized.Tags: "The Secret, beliefs, law_of_attraction, LOA, manifesting, outcomes, partner, personal development, personal development tip, process
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This post is for you if… there’s something you really want in life, but for some reason it isn’t turning up in your experience at the speed of an express train (or an express snail, for that matter) What’s to be done?
Ask yourself this question, and answer it honestly. (No-one will hear the answer but you). Does this prized outcome, a you think about it happening, feel “too good to be true”?
If so, that may very well indicate reason why you haven’t snaffled that outcome (yet). You see, if something feels “too good to be true,” to you, then you don’t yet believe on the deepest level, that you can attain it. If you did believe it, then it would feel like the next logical step, rather than something that’s “too good”. You’d be thinking/feeling/saying things like, “Of course I can be/have/do X. Why wouldn’t I? The now-treasured outcome would be so much a fact that it wouldn’t actually take up so much of your time or thought as it may at present.
As an example, contrast a person who thinks that, say, life with a great partner is “too good to be true,” with the mindeset of someone who is moving in with a great partner tomorrow.
But how do you get there?
The trouble is, the whole matter can seem somewhat “chicken and egg.” You need to feel like something is thoroughly expected, before you really know what it’s like to expect that thing. But if you knew already what the feeling was like, you wouldn’t be needing to set this outcome.
Fortunately, there ar two ways around this. The first is imagination. By imagining what the feeling would be like (helped by visualisation, reading other people’s success stories, etc) you can often foster the new feeling in a creative and enjoyable way.
Which is fine, if you have huge confidence in your imagination.
If you’re a little nervous about relying only on imagination though, and/or want to “top up” those activities with something less nebulous, here’s a process that works, and makes the ideas behind books and films like, “The Secret” a bit more “do-able”.
1. Note how it is you’d like to feel/need to feel to get this outcome.
2. Be aware, as authentically as possible, of how you feel now.
3. Think about the biggest step twoards your outcome, which still feels completely factual and “on the cards” as you can, (Ideally, this should feel as likely as your brushing your teeth tonight). For example, the person seeking a great partner may not be able yet, to feel what that might be like, but they might well be able to feel likely that they could enjoy a chat, within the next few days, with someone who has some of the characteristics they might like in a partner.
From that place, they might move on to feeling what it would be like to meet more people like that, then meet them for longer…and so on, until the final outcome is a “normality” too.
4. And so, as the example suggests, the final step is simply to repeat this process until the feeling you’re aiming for is a solid part of your reality.
Hope this makes sense and is useful-please comment either way!
Clare
Turning on the Tap? July 9, 2007
Posted by selfworks in Uncategorized.Tags: abundance, creativity, law_of_attraction, LOA, love, personal development
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Hello again-and no, just in case you’re wondering, this blog’s title doesn’t refer to the truly appalling weather we experienced on holiday last week. Let’s just say that my Long Suffering Spouse and I had plenty of time to get rest and relaxation.
Anyway, down to the point of the post.
Over the last few days, I’ve also had cause to meet a whole bunch of people with different ideas about life to my own. And as a result, here’s a new thought/idea that you might find useful too.
Not to put too fine a point on it, many of these people were enjoying a type of abundance that made my head spin. Not because of intrinsic greed (at least, I hope not). And in fact, many of the same people, far from being greedy, were also sharing out the goodies in a way that the rest of us can only dream about (so far).
At the same time, some of those same people were not so blessed in areas such as as creativity, or good old-fashioned love, as I’m so very thankful to be.
Which got me to thinking…Why do we, as human beings, tend to “turn off” the flow of various good things towards ourselves?
For a long time, I just put it down to a weird kind of emotional masochism.
Then, on applying the “law of attraction” and related principles, I thought it was all a part of “pinching off supply” by not feeling worthy. Which it is. But there’s more to it than that (or at least, a slightly more practical way to understand and overcome these self-imposed obstacles).
You see, experience suggests that most of us are actually pretty sensible creatures, who want the best in life for ourselves and those close to us, as a fairly basic instinct.
And there’s only one basic instinct that could have any chance of defeating an evolutionary success drive that’s that strong. Fear.
So then it hit me. If you increase the supply of some “good thing” into your life that’s been missing, you are also then often forced to live your life in a more “full-on,” kind of way. For example, allowing more love into your life brings with it relationships, extra concern for others, commitments and obligations.
And it looks as if the increased choices available to super-abundant individuals also bring with them a responsibility towards others, and an amplification of the speed and pace of life, that may not suit everyone. It would, in fact, take large amounts of self-confidence and internal wherewithal to negotiate that path successfully.
So in fact, a part of each of us may be keeping a close, if unconscious, eye on the flow through the “tap” of abundance, love, or whatever, in order to feel secure that we have the internal resources that match the external situation.
Or, to put it another way, perhaps this is why the sages have said for aeons that “all change must begin from within”.
Does this mean that we should all be content with the merest dribble from the metaphorical “tap” in certain areas of our lives? Absolutely not. But the challenge for each of us is to realise that we really do, already have all the resources to cope with increased flow if we choose, and that anyway, the rate and amount of flow really is in our control.
I’m off to experiment with some ideas around this and will report back. (As if on cue, we now have a thunderstorm. Nature, it seems, has no difficulty turning on the tap).
Hope this helps
More soon
Clare
"What Do You Really Want?" Part Three June 1, 2007
Posted by selfworks in Happiness and Success, Personal Development (General).Tags: goals, law_of_attraction, LOA, outcomes, personal_development, personal_development_tip
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OK, I know this should have come out yesterday. But I wanted it to give this last part of the time and attention it deserves.
So far, I’ve been on about timescales, and digging down to the truth of what you really want.
“Essence”
This last section’s about “essence”.
“I don’t get it!” you may be saying. “What’s she on about, “essence?” “Isn’t that for cooking, or perfume?”
Well, yes. But in this case, I’m thinking about the essence of what you really want. In other words, what would be your feeling, or internal experience, if you had what you want?
For example, before I met my Long Suffering (but I think happy) Spouse (LSS will be well-known to you if you read this often) I never used to think about how I’d feel in a happy, long-term relationship.
One day, I did start imagining that. And within weeks, I’d met LSS.
The advantages
The advantages of essence go beyond getting clarity about what you want, or being able to attract what you want more easily (powerful though both ideas are).
If you know the essence of what you want, you cna also begin to incorporate it into your life much sooner. This will both stop you from climbing the walls whilst you’re working towards your outcome, and contribute even more to the “attractive power” we’ve just spoken about.
An example of this will probably make the most sense.Take a hypothetical person called John. John has been an accountant for many years, but has always secretly yearned to be a craftsman, crafting beautiful objects in wood. The essence of the actual experience he wants is the emotional feeling and physical sensation of crafting beautiful objects. And even whilst he’s working in an office, he’s free to daydream about what this would be like. More practically, he’s also free to craft actual objects in his spare time.
By doing this, he’ll:
1) Relieve his frustrations at work by experiencing some of what he wants each day, right away.
2) Get more experience, so that when the time comes and he makes a career change, the experience is there.
3) Let others know about this skill, so that they can admire (and perhaps even buy or recommend) his objects and help him to build an internal sense of his new possible role as a master craftsman. And yes, you’ve guessed it….this may well make that role-change happen faster, and more easily.
So…
So there you have it. Three tips on getting what you want that work together in the background, and may often give you (or someone you know) the boost that they need.
Hope this helps.
Have a great weekend.
Clare
What if it’s not, "Luck"? May 10, 2007
Posted by selfworks in Uncategorized.Tags: creative_manifestation, law_of_attraction, LOA, luck, maifesting
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“Oh, it was just luck really”.
I’ve lost count of the number of times clients and friends have said this to me….Neglecting to mention, asthey did so that they’d also just happened to have put in weeks, months and sometimes years of concentrated thought about what they wanted to have happen.
In other words, they’d already spent a lot of time thinking about the positive outvcome they wanted. Yet when it actually came about, all of their attention went onto the final means by which they achieved their outcome. so they ascribed it all to, “luck” rather than their own, innate abilty to manifest what they wanted in their own lives.
Then…
Then of course, I realised I’ve done the same thing myself, many times. So if you have too, here’s thought. Next time any of us feels tempted to call something, “pure luck”, at least consider instead that you might stand back and say,
“That’s great! I made that happen,” before also(if you wish) dishing out all appropriate thanks to others, (including Lady Luck).
Hope this helps
More soon
Clare
What’s All This With About "The Secret"? April 12, 2007
Posted by selfworks in Uncategorized.Tags: law_of_attraction, LOA, manifesting, Rhonda_Byrne, The_Secret, the_Secret_book
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These days, you can’t move for people talking about, “The Secret”…the film/book that claims to share with the rest of us a mysterious “secret that gurus down the ages have known.
Well, does it work?
I confess, if I seem a little slow-off the mark here, that other than sniffing out some best-value resources related to this, I know I’ve been a bit quiet about it. That’s mostly because, having got the gist of the film, I really couldn’t fathom what was supposed to be so “secret” about it… The Master Key System (more about this in a post in the near future) and the Abraham-Hicks teachings, (www.abraham-hicks.com) are well established, to the tune of 90-odd and I believe around 20 years respectively.
In other words, people have been saying that “like attracts like” and that this means you should only ever think about the substance of what you want, for many more years than I’ve been having hot dinners.
But, not wishing to let you (or anyone else) down, I’ve finally succumbed to all the hype and hullaballoo, and had a good old review of “The Secret” in its book-form.
And I have to say, I did find some new light shed on the subject after all. For one thing, there’s the quotes from luminaries of the past (eg. it seems that Churchill thought each of us created our own universe a long time before the New Age dawned).
Secondly, there are the inspiring real-life stories of the contributors.
Thirdly, there are familiar ideas put in a more enlightening way. For example, I’ve often wondered why, in my experience, giving sometimes increases abundance afterwards, but not always. turn to page 108 (of the UK edition at least) and the author, Rhonda Byrne, points out that giving and “sacrifice” are two separate things.
Fourthly, all the principles work in a no-fuss form. Hand on heart, I can tell you that, during reading the book, I had an idle thought about attracting a certain kind of work…Which turned out not to be so idle, because out of the blue, and with no prior prompting from me whatsoever, a request for me to consider just that type of project came by phone, literally within hours.
Fluke? Maybe. Interesting, certianly.
Lastly, but overridingly, what I really like about this book is that it puts some key personal development principles into a form that even the people who wouldn’t be seen dead in the self-help section may well find really inspiring and attractive. And anything which helps more people to be happy and contented gets my vote, whatever its form.
Last question though, should you actually buy this?
If you’re new to the Law of Attraction as an idea, (or LOA, as everyone seems to say these days) and want an accessible introduction that works, grab this.
If you’re familiar with the principles, you might not be quite so truck with it. Maybe buy it if you want a refresher, or to own a nice-looking tome to add to your classics. You may not learn too much that you didn’t already know somewhere along the line, but things like this are often useful if you’re feeling in need of a boost, or need to hear something put in a different way.
Finally, the attractive layout could also make it an ideal gift.
But as ever, if you do go for it, Amazon.co.uk
Hope this helps.
More next week (life is just ultra-full for the next few days, but should also produce some bloggable stuff for the future!).
Clare
