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On Plumbing & Empowerment… November 20, 2008

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OK, it’s a weird title. Plumbing and empowerment do not normally go together. But this week, for me, they have. And in the process, they’ve revealed some interesting ideas that might be of use to you.

First off, let me explain that plumbing comes into it-not least because it helps to explain a week’s blogging silence.
The plumbers have been in in our house. And, terrified though I was at the point when gaping holes remained where the bath had been,  I’m feeling a certain sense of empowerment now. After all, as a committed, “cerebral rather than practical” soul, it was a big stretch even to stray into Builderland, with its strange lingo (“You’ll need a woodnut”…I never did really work out what a wood nut is, but apparently we now have them) and even stranger customs. For example, our builder didn’t like emails, and would only phone… Another stretch for a blogging and email junkie;-).
Anyway, the first lesson from all this, as my Long suffering Spouse and I appreciate our gleaming bathroom, is that there is always a job you’ve put off for so long, that seems so alien, and is buried so deeply, that it doesn’t even feature on your, “Things I must get round to doing,” list anymore.

 I can promise you that if you find that buried task, make a plan, seek help if needed, and then just get through it the best way you know how, your rewards in terms of energy, achievement and empowerment, will be huge.

A second personal development reminder

 Another useful reminder came from our plumber himself. Just as he was finishing our (have I mentioned this already?) astonishingly nice bathroom, he revealed that he himself hadn’t been able to have a shower at home , but only baths, for two years, because he’d been so busy working on other people’s bathrooms.

So, personal development question number two for you, me and the rest of the world, is:
“What skill or talent do you share with the rest of the world to a really high standard, but often forget to enjoy using for your own benefit?”

Once you’ve identified it of course, your challenge is to give yourself  that benefit (whether it’s cake-making, friendship, support, advice, or great bathrooms) to the same extent that you’d give it to someone else. And do please leave a comment about your experiences, or any stories that this post has brought into your mind.

Who’d have thought you could get all this from a bit of plumbing? Everyday life really is it’s very own personal development/empowerment course, if we can all allow it to be. 

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I must go, because it’s time to run a nice, hot, bath…

Ultimate Productivity Tip/Procrastination Beater June 4, 2008

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If you want to boost your productivity, beat procrastination, and generally feel good about your efficiency, there are lots of tips and theories out there.

And many of them take a nice length of time to wade through, ironically giving the seasoned procrastinator a seemingly cast-iron excuse to put things off whilst they, “just learn how to get more done”.

So, I’m not going to give you the satisfaction of lengthy prose that makes you feel like you’re doing something to solve the problem, without actually solving it.

Instead, just promise yourself that you’ll commit to the next action. Are you ready? It’s…

Do the thing you least want to do first, and get it out the way.

(And yes, you do know which it is. It’s the lurking one that you’ll tidy your desk/wash-up/even go to the dentist to avoid…)

But do this just once a day, and your productivity will soar.

Plus, after the first few days of carrying this out, you’ll so enjoy the rush of energy, achievement and pleasure you get from carrying out a “dreaded task” that you might even look forward to getting them out of the way…

Be warned though, for this to work at it’s best, just attack the one thing you’ve least wanted to do, each day.

Please do leave feedback on the results you get from this (it’s likely to encourage other people to get more done, too, apart from anything else).

Enjoy!

Clare

Your Drug of Choice? June 14, 2007

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Don’t worry, I’m not suggesting anything untoward by that.

The point here though, is that many of us (me included) may have a “drug of choice,” serving a specific purpose, of which we’re not even properly aware.

Examples

I got to thinking about this when several people started saying, in various different ways, that a particular habit they wanted to break became very much worse when they also wanted to procrastinate over a given task. For example (and these are hypothetical, but they mirror what was said) a person might have an extra glass of wine in order to put off putting together an important presentation. Someone else might smoke a cigarette to put off the time when they have to make an emotionally-challenging phonecall. And in my own case, far from hypothetically, I know when I’m avoiding something when I start to eat instead of act.

The advantage

The advantage of this connection though (and yes, there is an advantage) is that by being aware of the connection between your habit and the thing you want to avoid, you get the opportunity to deal with two issues for the price of one. Working on the procrastination loosens the habit, and identifying and challenging the habit helps you to take more action.

Where to begin

There’s no “right” or “wrong” place to start here. One idea that’s been useful so far is to have myself (or another person with a habit or procrastination they want to change) get really aware of how they feel just prior to performing the habit, and what they are avoiding by doing it.

Just that awareness is surprisingly effective at opening the door for change.

And, on another note entirely, as the end of this week is just as crammed as the last, this is the last blog until Monday, so do have a good weekend.

More soon

Clare

How to Move a Mountain May 25, 2007

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Well, yes, OK, a real, physical mountain might be pushing it. But if you’re surrounded by a project that seems too huge even to start, let alone complete, this post is for you.

Breaking it down into stages is the answer, but the places where you choose to break are just as important as the breaking down. Stages that are short, and feel, “complete within themselves” allow you to give yourself a pat on the back with each completed one..Thereby making it more likely that you’ll get started on the next stage another day.

Breaking a project down, (especially one involving creativity or report-writing…though the two need not be mutually exclusive) into smaller parts has the added advantage that your unconscious mind can work on upcoming segments in the breaks between the different phases.

Typical parts of a project

So what are these mythical “component parts”? Well, oviusly no two projects are identical, but if you split yours into the following five phases, then tweak it to your own needs, you’re likely to see positive results.

1. Research, eg. asking questions like, “What’s my outcome?” or “What’s needed?” If this is your own creative idea, this stage mayseem to be less important than if someone else has asked for your output. . But thinking about the people who’ll receive the fruits of your labour is always a good idea. Plus, rumour has it that even that icon of creativity, J.K. Rowling, spent several years planning out the Harry Potter books in her mind before putting pen to paper.

2.. Give an idea a broad shape, getting down the first flashes of inspiration.

This is the equivalant of a surveyor or garden designer marking out proposed changes to a piece of land.You’re sketching the outline, and key points that stike you at once, so you know thye’ll be safely captured for later.

3. Produce a first draft or attempt, without judging it at all.

The key thing here is just to keep producing without judging your efforts. Plenty of time to make judgement calls later…when you’ll be heartened by the amount you have already done.

If the project is a large one, consider breaking this down further, into sections within the project. Eg. if you’re writing a large proposal, one day you might rough out the introduction, the next the key benefits, etc.

If you’re subdividing here, keep each “chunk” small, so that you’re sure to get that “quick win” feeling, within an hour ideally, and within two at most.

4. Polish and check the project or piece of work.

This is the time to get picky. Polish all you want, change and re-jig. Get others to review your output so far, if appropriate. But again, keep your timings, and the mini-goal of finishing this segment, in mind.

5. Publish, or otherwise distribute or announce the project.

Output time. How you give that output, its structure and format, will of course depend on you and the project. But after that, have an even bigger celebration…knowing that you can now use this system whenever you want to make thing more manageable, and generally “move mountains”.

Hope this helps!

More soon

Clare

Pseudo-Procrastination March 20, 2007

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Q. When is procrastination not procrastination?

A. When the activity you do instead is consistently the same. Then, there’s a strong likelihood it could be your unconscious mind seriously trying to tell you something.

Let me explain.

If Bloggs has a task he/she hates, like filing, and they put it off with a range of activities (eg. one day browsing the internet, the next taking a much longer lunch-hour, that’s true procrastination (of the kind I’ve blogged about many times).

But if that person finds that instead of getting on with their orfdinary tasks of various kinds, they are consistently drawn back to the same activity, there’s a chance that it isn’t procrastination> An example might be where Bloggs consistently browses the internat for a new job. at all. Maybe, just maybe, their unconscious mind deems the activity that keeps being done instead is (in the unconscious mind’s terms at least!) more important right now, or at least in need of attention, right now.

Apply it to yourself and/or the people you know anyway, and test this idea for yourself.

Hope this helps.

More soon

Clare

PS. If you’ve read between the lines and guessed that this dynamic has been slowing me up too….you’d be right. But in this case, the new Goodybag is still important, and coming this week, I’d hope!

Pesky tasks are toast… November 27, 2006

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Ah, now that’s nice. I’ve stumbled across a super-simple, and free, way to beat procrastination, in less than 5 minutes.

Are you ready?

1. Make a list of all the tiny, pesky tasks that you keep putting off because of the uncomfortable feeling associated with them. (Never mind analysing the feeling, just shove the task on the list if the feeling’s there).

(The point of this, by the way, is that such tasks are sneakily draining your motivation without you even knowing it, if dodgy feelings are attached to them).

2. Pick the easiest, shortest task on the list, that you’re certain you can do in five minutes, if you could be bothered.

3. Then just start, and complete it, whatever happens, in five minutes.

4. Notice how much lighter you feel and go about your day (though don’t be surprised if this suddenly inspires you to crack on through the rest of the “pesky tasks” list).

Hope this helps

More soon

Clare